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Can I Change My Stripes? The Saying goes, "You can't change a tiger's stripes!" This is true, as long as a tiger remains a tiger. But what if that striped animal could be changed into a new kind of creature? What if people could change who they are fundamentally, and not just superficially or cosmetically . . . what if people could change their stripes?
The truth is you will be who you are until you become someone different. Until you Change Your Stripes, you will bring the old animal with you wherever you go! And as you encounter new situations, you will tend to act according to the old patterns of the old creature, . . . repeating old ways that may not work and may not bring happiness.
"It's not What Happens to you in Life,
but how You Respond to “What Happens”
that matters most! You can never change your pattern
of reacting and responding, until You Change Your Stripes —
until you experience a Fundamental Change from your Core.
The common cure for dealing with a tiger-like disposition, explosive and ferocious, is to ship the ornery animal off to a different place—relocate to a new zoo. Or if the tiger is especially tenacious, another cure is to simply leave the cranky creature. Either way, as long as that tiger remains a tiger . . . cutting claws are liable to leave their mark upon new prey . . . in a future day, and the false remedy of relocation (a.k.a., abandonment, breaking up, divorce) will eventually be repeated.
"The only change that matters is a change of heart,
every other change alters us cosmetically but not fundamentally,
modifies how we appear, what we do or what we say,
but does not change who we are."
- C. Terry Warner
When stubborn creatures resist fundamental change from their core, . . . root problems will remain the same even though superficial scenery and appearance may change. In the end, you can try to run from your troubles, but you cannot run from yourself. Wherever you go, . . . you will bring yourself with you.
"Mastering a challenging situation
is ultimately a matter of
mastering yourself!"
- Matt Moody
It is directly "in" our challenges that we find our ultimate destiny. In the ever-appearing adversities of life, we can increase in strength of character; a character that at mortal death is the only possession of which it can be said: "you took it with you." What you will take into the eternal world is . . . what you become!
The greatest prize
for Life's labors is not
in material possession
or impressive accomplishments,
but in the progress of personal character.
You labor for your own becoming, this is your richest reward.
Who You Become is your greatest possession,
make it your Masterpiece!
(Changing Your Stripes, 2nd Edition, page xvi)
Feel Stuck in a Rut? Looking for a Remedy?
Fact is, You will continue to be Bogged Down & Bamboozled
Until You Talk to Dr Matt and/or Read his Book, Changing Your Stripes
Some Psychologists and Therapists teach a popular, yet erroneous idea:
To Change Yourself and To Change the Perceptions of Your World,
all you must do is Change Your Mind, Change Your Thinking!
But here's the problem: You can't Change Your Mind
using the Same Mind that needs Changing.
You can't Fix Your Mind, using the
Same Mind that needs Fixing.
Dr Matt calls this Contradictory Trap:
"Einstein's Mind Bind" — it's the reason why you're Stuck!
"Changing Your Stripes" presents principles for getting out of
the ditch in which you've been dumped (the difficulties of which you are victim),
and the ditch in which you've jumped (the difficulties for which you volunteer).
"Changing Your Stripes," teaches you the principles that lead to lasting change,
making you a new kind of creature capable of communicating
with calm, even as storms of contention swirl.
If these ideas resonate and ring true,
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