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"With every conscious choice to draw near to Love and Light,
Most human problems come in three kinds:
Direct Control Problem — Problem with Self
Each problem has a solution that calls for change:
Problem with Self — Change your Habits
While some problems can be solved through determined will power or creative thinking, our most challenging problems in life require a Change of Heart — a profound and lasting change that naturally leads to a change in habits, a change in approach toward others, and a change in attitude about events beyond our control. There is a reason why creative thinking and mental will-power alone cannot bring about lasting change:
"We cannot solve problems at the same level of thinking
The fixated state of being mentally stuck is a condition I call "Einstein's Mind Bind" — it means you can't change your mind using the same mind that needs changing, nor can you fix a situation using the same mind that needs fixing. The only way out of this cognitive conundrum is to experience a Change of Heart.
“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he"
Many misinterpret this Proverb by diminishing or removing the meaning of "heart" and emphasizing mind power: "As a man thinks, so is he." But the Proverb verifies that Self-Identity is revealed from the Heart; so to change Who You Are from your core, a Change of Heart must happen.
"The only change that matters is a change of heart,
A Change of Heart necessarily precedes a change of mind, thus a change of perspective. Jesus taught that our thoughts, words, and deeds flow from the good or evil treasures of the heart.
"How can ye, being evil,
So how do we come to a Change of Heart? Is the pathway to lasting change only understood by the educated elite? Is the process of profound change an exclusive secret only known to experts?
"Everything we need to know
The secret of life is everyone's possession; it is our possession as part of the human family. Thus, we must not resist the intuitions of Heart that guide us:
"Keep thy heart with all
Because our Creator is infinitely wise, He has provided a way for all His creations to know Truth, and thereby receive a fullness of joy in this life and in eternity.
Sensing Intuitions of Heart is a universal human experience. Such intuitions are often called "Conscience," "Inner Wisdom," or "Inner Voice." This global experience of inner prompting cuts across all religions and cultures. Here's a few examples of how Intuitions of Heart are spoken of from various perspectives:
"But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name,
"But this shall be the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel;
"Nothing can bring you peace but the triumph of principles...
"About morals, I know only that what is moral
"Two things awe me most, the starry sky above
"When you reach the end of what you should know,
"The Way is not in the sky, . . . the Way is in the heart."
"When you succeed in connecting your energy with the divine realm
To clearly hear intuitions of Truth, impressions of one's Heart, all aspects of inner darkness must be identified and un-done; a person must be clean, to be clear.
"Unto the pure all things are pure:
You've heard the phrase "this will be their undoing." Typically, an undoing is a bad thing: unraveling, falling apart, or breaking up — all these are bad. But consider a type of undoing that is good: the process by which we recover clarity of heart is actually more a matter of un-doing, than of doing.
Becoming Clean and Clear is not something
When you feel that something is good, and you are purely honest in the experience of that impression, no further evidence is needed — the Truthful Feeling is the evidence. There is no greater guide to fulfillment and refinement than the crystal clarity that speaks as a whisper to your soul.
The voice of Light is heard in the Light.
We enjoy the full presence of Light when we are clean: personal purity is the key to clearly hearing the voice of Light. To become clean, we must strip away all aspects of darkness in our lives. When we fail to un-do inner darkness, we literally cannot perceive the pathway to honor or to truth; we will be blind to the perspective and logic of Light. As long as there is inner darkness, there will be self-deception.
Self-Deception = The Problem that You have a Problem,
If we are blind to our self-deceptions, how can we possibly recognize our blindness, if we are blind?
Three Tell-Tale Signs that You
A thorough understanding of the tell-tale signs of self-deception provides awareness sufficient to catch yourself and correct your course. The patterns are predictable and observable; they are signs central to the aim of un-doing! Seeing these signs in yourself provides a huge clue to what you must un-do.
Tell-Tale Sign of Self-Deception: Justifying
"People who act with integrity,
"You can't talk your way out of a problem
Tell-Tale Sign of Self-Deception: Accusing
"People seem not to see that their opinion of the
"When you judge another,
"You don't see the world as it is,
Tell-Tale Sign of Self-Deception: Resenting
Re-senting others, or situations, is a re-occurring activity: The resentful person engages in re-sending yesterday's contrary energy. Re-sending resentful energy is today's decision that squashes tomorrow's hope.
The act of re-sent-ment tethers you to yesterday's misery. This is a consistent law of life: Every resentful seed sown today . . . returns a bitter harvest tomorrow.
Resentment is the Poison that You Drink,
When I am False . . . I feel
To a certain extent, recognizing tell-tale signs of the inner darkness can be grasped by intellectual awareness and study, as parables and principles are pondered. But ultimately the task of un-doing inner darkness is not an intellectual process but a spiritual process, where people get to own what they create -- what comes out of them.
The Division of Response-Ability:
Whenever you feel Irritated, its fundamentally because you are IRRITATE-ABLE. How so? Realize that the same "Irritating" stimulus will not cause many other people to become Irritated.
"It's natural to believe that external events upset you. When you're mad at someone,
"Certainly clumsy, embarrassing, and mean-spirited things do occur in human
Again, the Division of Response-Ability comes into play: If It Comes Out of You . . . It Is Yours!
So in situations that happen short of physical abuse or bodily violence, even though others may be verbally offensive or mean-spirited -- that's their problem! And our react to "their problem" can become "our problem" as we let the bad behavior of others offend or overwhelm us. This means that being Irritable or Miserable, one way or the other, occurs because it is Self-Inflicted -- we choose our responses to outward constraints, we are Able to Respond.
Hitting Myself with the Misery Stick!
Why Would Anyone Choose To Make
While some misery is inflicted in the moment by
Emotional misery is Self-Inflicted through acts of commission and omission:
The Creator has given all humanity the gift of free will to choose between Light and darkness. An infinitely wise God has created you and me to be Accountable and Response-Able for our choices.
Our ability to choose wisely when others are offensive or mean-spirited, is determined by our history of embracing the Light, or by our pronounced pattern of walking in darkness. People who embrace the Light have more freedom to choose how they will respond when tough times appear. And the fact is, in mortal life, "tough times" always appear . . . because that's how human life happens.
"With every conscious choice to draw near to Love and Light,
The preceding has been an introduction to basic principles of emotional healing and change.
Now, to better understand how our history of choosing factors into the way we respond in the moment, we must understand a Principle I call: Energy-In-Motion -- and it's a deep subject! But here's a brief explanation of E-motion, or Energy-In-Motion.
Matt Moody, Ph.D.
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