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Disappearing the Scars of Abuse

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Healing Emotional Scars
by Dr Matt Moody 

The idea of emotional scars got its impetus from the tangible reality of physical scarring. Physical scars occur when bodies are battered or broken, and as they heal, the evidence of abuse or accident remains in the flesh. The theory behind "emotional scarring" is similar, but it is the inner person that is battered and broken; thus, the parallel assumption is that emotional scars, like physical scars, leave a permanent "mark" that never goes away.

Years after experiencing a trauma, some continue to claim emotional pain due to a prior difficulty; they blame their present pain upon a past aggravating event. In their mind, they think the past situation "caused" the pain they still feel years later. This could be the case if bodily contact occurred and physical damage was done, but if the pain is purely emotional, then the principles governing this kind of "pain" are different.

The physical flesh has its own realm of reaction,
uniquely different from the emotional realm of reaction;
while it’s commonly assumed that “emotional scars”
never completely heal and never go away,
such is a Flat-Earth Assumption.
(Changing Your Stripes, 2nd Edition, page 224) 

The main reason why so many labor under the unnecessary pain called "emotional scars" is because they misunderstand, and thus misperceive, exactly what is happening in their world. Decades ago, W.I. Thomas declared, "that which you perceive as real . . . is real in its consequences."

You are a prisoner to the ideas and perceptions
you assume to be true, . . . but are not true.

Whether they are based in reality or not, our perceptions bring about consequences "as if" those perceptions were accurate. Dr Wayne Dyer offers these words of caution:

Don't Believe Everything You Think!

My book, "Changing Your Stripes," offers a detailed explanation of exactly what "emotional scars " ARE and what is really happening as people struggle with tormenting thoughts and feelings that linger year after year, and don't go away. Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome is essentially equivalent to the "emotional scar" phenomenon.

Changing Your Stripes explains how an Emotionally Scarred way of perceiving initiates and endures; and most importantly, CYS details how so-called "Emotional Scars" can heal and completely disappear.

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