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Hi Dr Matt,

I live in the Montreal area, and am looking for a psychologist or other professionals that can assist with a trauma I experienced 2 years ago. I am a 35 year old male professional.

I did some 'web research' and believe what I am experiencing is consistent with 'social betrayal.'

I can function well enough at work, and continue to get positive reviews. I saw a psychologist who did the MMPI and about half a dozen other tests. Nothing was "clinically significant." However, my mind, heart and spirit have been on a steady decline, and family and friends can plainly see what the testing could not measure.

I have had a few outbursts in the past year (about 5, but that's about 5 more than usual - it's all I can do to contain my emotions.) My physician, my parents, my sister and my girlfriend of 3 years, all of whom are aware of the trauma, are encouraging me to get help, but they don't know anyone.

I Googled "psychologists specializing social betrayal" and your website is the third (and most relevant) hit. Do you know where I can find someone with expertise in trauma or 'social betrayal' in the Montreal area?

Thank you in advance for your time. Any 'leads' you can provide will be greatly appreciated.

Sincerely
Brandon

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Hello Brandon:

You write: "However, my mind, heart and spirit have been on a steady decline, and family and friends can plainly see what the testing could not measure. I have had a few outbursts in the past year (about 5, but that's about 5 more than usual - it's all I can do to contain my emotions.)"

You need not find someone to help you "face to face" in the Montreal area, for it is NOT the physical presence of a psychologist that will help you; instead, it is the true principles that you must learn that will help you. Those true principles can be taught via telephone conversations with me, and by reading my book, Changing Your Stripes. I can help you!

First question: Describe what your 5 "outbursts" look like, in detail, and in context of when they occurred?

I can help you get to the roots of your emotional outbursts. I explain what "Emotion" is . . . in my book — which is a very tough task. What I've written in my book about Emotion an original, pioneering explanation. I am not parroting what someone else has written about emotion. Truth is, most authors who write on the subject, don't understand what they are writing about.

Even though the word "emotion" is used as a noun in written and verbal expression, the word represents spiritual-mental-physiological-activity. The "noun" implications of the word "emotion" creates "thingish" misconceptions about emotion. Again, the word "emotion" represents verb-activity: Emotion = E-Motion = Energy in Motion.

Energy in Motion is created similar to this analogy: If you choose to throw a rock into a deep chasm, once you've thrown the rock . . . you cannot thereafter "choose" to halt the rocks course to the bottom of the chasm. By throwing the rock, you have chosen to experience the consequences associated with the "Energy-in-Motion" that you created at the point of throwing.

In like manner, the emotions that you are trying to contain in the present moment . . . were set in motion months ago, by a choice that you made. The good news is this: Because you are responsible for that choice, you can UN-choose the creation of "energy in motion" that is NOT beneficial to you.

Truth is . . . NO ONE can "contain" their emotions, once you understand that Emotion IS "Energy-in-Motion." You cannot contain your emotions anymore than you can damn up rushing water — there will be inevitable leakage.

This means, you cannot "control" your emotions (no one can); but you can "determine" future emotions by making appropriate choices today. A traditional psychologist cannot effectively help you -- I actually learned about "social betrayal" from a philosopher, and NOT a psychologist.

Philosophy is the mother of science: The dialogue about phenomena of "social betrayal" and "self-deception" are originally found in philosophical discourse.

Help will start with simply buying my book, then scheduling a free telephone consultation. If the complimentary consultation goes well, you can schedule a series of telephone sessions with me. I will teach you, what you need to know to solve your situation.

Sincerely,

Matt Moody, Ph.D.
Social Psychologist

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