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Why Doesn't God Answer My Prayers?

Dear Dr. Matt,
 
My name is Shannon and I live in Oklahoma. My age is 33. My question is why doesn't God ever answer my prayers. I've been praying all kinds of prayers and none of them have been answered. See I talked to my boyfriend Friday and now I'm thinking he's mad at me, so I prayed to God to ask
if my boyfriend would call me and God still hasn't answered my prayer.

Why doesn't God like me anymore?
From Shannon

Hello Sherron:

God does like you; in fact, He loves you! He actually has answered your prayer in two distinct ways:

1) God's silence tells you something. You just do not know yet, what His silence means. The more you come to know your Creator, the more you will be able to understand the meaning of God's silence.

2) Of the millions and millions of websites available on the Internet, I suggest that it is no accident that you have come in contact with me—and this, after praying to God for an answer. As I refer you to the word of God in the Bible, the Creator is actually speaking to you . . . and answering you.

About God's silence, here's a true principle to learn:

"Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss" (James 4: 3)

Shannon, you have asked amiss because the question you have posed to Almighty God . . . is not of High Heavenly Priority. Why so? Concern over whether you are pleasing your boyfriend, and if he is mad at you, or if he's going to call you, is infinitely LESS important than whether you are pleasing the God who created you.

In my book, "Changing Your Stripes," I explain that pleasing God first is to get "the only Vote that counts."

As you come to know your Creator, you will learn that praying about High Heavenly Priorities is pleasing to God. As you pray about the things of Heaven you will hear the Creator's Voice more immediately and clearly; conversely, as you pray about less important things, God's immediate answer may be . . . silence.

Here's another passage from the Bible that will give you hope as you pray for those things that please God--things of High Priority:

If any of you lack wisdom, let her ask of God, that giveth to all liberally,
and upbraideth not; and it shall be given. But let her ask in faith, nothing wavering.
For she that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.
For let not that women think that she shall receive any thing of the Lord.
A double minded woman is unstable in all her ways. (James 1: 5-8)

Shannon, I'm not implying that you are "double minded," . . . instead, I am saying that whenever you and I are double minded, we can expect to receive an answer of silence from God. Being double minded is the opposite of what the Christ lived and taught:

The light of the body is the eye: therefore when thine eye is single,
thy whole body also is full of light; but when thine eye is evil,
thy body also is full of darkness" (Luke 11: 34)

Again, the more you come to know the God who created you, the more you will be able to understand what His silence means. Further, the more your "eye is single" to High Heavenly Priorities, the more you will clearly hear His Voice and His Answers.

God keeps His word 100%. You have asked, and He as given "liberally." Through me, God has answered your prayer this day.

Keep praying . . . and as you hear and heed His answers, your life will become fulfilled and happy—whether or not your boyfriend is "mad" at you . . . because getting your boyfriend's vote and approval is NOT as important as getting God's Vote and Approval.

Sincerely,

Matt Moody, Ph.D.
Social Psychologist

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