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My name is Alecia. I'm 26 and live in Athlone, Ireland. Me and boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half. We've been having sex problems. This is my first sexual partner. We love each other very much. My boyfriend has been having performance trouble over the past year..ie since we started having sex and its making the relationship hard for us both.
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Yes, you can "work this out," depending upon what "work this out" means to you. For example, YOU can absolutely make choices, now and in the future, that will lead to a personal sense of inner harmony — no worries! But if "work this out" means, making all the same choices you've been making, and then expecting to have fantastic worry-free sex . . . that will NOT happen.
You and your boyfriend are feeling negative emotions (such as worry, etc) for a reason! The emotional consequence of feeling "worried" is directly tied to certain choices you are making; and because the emotions you feel are negative, this points to the fact that you have not made a correct choice, somewhere along the line. AND, your boyfriend had not made a correct choice either.
What I call "B.R.I.A.R. Emotions" are Inner Disharmony that signal a person's betrayal of his or her own sense of inner Truth. Read about BRIAR Emotions.
I state your Response-Ability separately, so that you (and your boyfriend separately) will be clear that these emotional trouble will not simply go away IF, for example, you adjust your attitude: "if sex didn't matter to me."
The Creator has designed Life to be Self-Correcting: When you make incorrect choices . . . you will feel uneasy and restless — you will feel Inner Conflict. On the other hand, when you make correct choices . . . you will feel good, and life will flow comfortably -- you will NOT feel BRIAR Emotions.
At this website I explain a Key Principle of Life that will help you solve this problem, and all others that you face for the rest of your life. But the previous webpage only identifies a Key Truth, there is much more to learn about this True Principle. Here's a more detailed explanation.
As you learn to be honest with yourself, and learn to carefully listen to and then follow your own inner sense of Truth, you will discover the choice, or choices, you have made, that have led to the consequences of inner disharmony. Let me know what your Heart leads to do!?
Matt Moody, Ph.D.
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